How to Start Dating Today

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Dating is a great way to meet potential partners and have a good time with new people, but it is daunting to start dating.  Remember.... 
Dating is a great way to meet potential partners and have a good time with new people, but it is daunting to start dating. Remember, however, that dating does not have to be stressful. It is supposed to be fun and adventurous, and if you keep an open mind and stay patient you'll be meeting new dates in no time.

Method 1: Finding a Date


Think about what you want in a potential partner.

Everyone has different preferences for romantic partners. You should think beyond physical attributes about what personalities you enjoy, what you need in a partner, and what you want out of dating. That said, there is no need to be super picky -- just give yourself some guidelines. For example, you might ask:

  • What kind attributes do I look for in my friends (funny, serious, creative, etc.)?
  • Do I want a serious relationship or to casually meet new men/women?
  • What are the "deal-breakers" that I absolutely do not want in a relationship?
Take care of yourself before looking for other people.


Many people want to find a partner who will "solve all of their problems," but unfortunately such a knight-in-shining-armour rarely exists in real life. By having self-confidence, taking care of your body with diet and exercise, and looking presentable you signal to people that you are ready to meet a partner and are capable of having a relationship.

  • Remember that you are not trying to trick someone into liking you. If the feeling is not mutual than that person is not worth your time.
  • Keep yourself clean and hygienic. This is one of the most obvious reasons someone would turn down a date with you.

Develop a strong network of friends.


Having a solid social life not only helps you find people to date, it gives you a chance to go out into social settings without being alone. A strong group of friends will support you when dates go wrong and help you navigate the world of relationships as you start dating.

  • Building a social network exposes you to many new people and personalities that can help you find dates.
  • Ask your friends if they know anyone who might be interested in a casual date.
  • Friends can often make the best romantic partners when done correctly.

Learn to flirt.


Flirting is often viewed as a secret art form, but in reality, it is pretty easy. Study after study has shown that eye contact and smiling is the single most effective flirting technique around, so be happy and respectful and connections will follow. Flirting is a great way to try "pre-dating." Smile, make eye-contact and have casual conversations to see if you want to see someone more often or start dating. If you think they might be a good match, slowly ramp up your flirting to show your interest by:

  • Breaking the touch barrier -- touch a shoulder or knee lean in for a hug, or brush something off their clothes.
  • Teasing-- light teasing, like making a joke about their drink choice or taste in a movie, is one of the oldest techniques in the book. If they tease back then you've made a connection.
  • Asking questions. Genuine interest in someone is not only flattering, it lets you find out more about them and if they are a good match for you.
To be continued in the next three days... Stay in touch with the post.

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